We live in a world today where chaos is inevitable. We are overwhelmed by endless information. Sometimes you don’t even know which one to trust anymore. Confusion and helplessness become such daily themes. You just want to have clarity on what’s the right thing to do. And to find your inner peace. 

Remember that one afternoon, when you took your time to finally reply to all your Whatsapp chats, direct messages on Instagram, and texts on Facebook Messenger. You wanted to help your best friend who needs you. You needed to give confirmation on an event coming up next week. Then after getting all the downloads about what’s happening in your friends’ lives, you saw the horrible world news on social media that crushed your heart. You started to wonder how you can support the refugees and displaced families from afar. Which organization can you trust? How much do you want to donate? Is this really the wisest way to support? Outside of your phone screen, your child is calling you to get your urgent help. While helping your child, 10 other working tasks start popping up in your head. Feeling restless and powerless, you stopped and asked yourself: “What’s the right thing to do now?”

How did we get into this? Even after a full day of problem solving, you know there’ll be one million things waiting to fight for your attention the next day. In today’s world, we find ourselves in decision making fatigue almost on a daily basis. From making small decisions, like, “what to eat today?” to the big question, like, “Should I leave my marriage or should I stay?”

Then more often than not, confusion and helplessness drives us into inaction. In the place of overwhelm, you didn’t want to do anything wrong that you ended up not doing anything at all. What looked silent on the outside became stormy on the inside. You started to notice that voice of self judgment in your head. For not being capable and not being the perfect human you want to be. 

You want to find your inner peace. But what kind of inner peace? If you’re here, I know you aren’t looking for a momentary inner peace that you can only find on top of the mountain while the sun is rising. Possibly you want the kind of inner peace where you know for sure that you are safe. And secure. And that you’re doing the right thing. And that you will not ever regret what you do or you don’t do. If you fall into this second category, you may or may not find the answer here. 

However, if you want the kind of inner peace where you know how you’re living your one and precious life in a way that’s aligned with who you truly are, and making important decisions that are true to you, I want you to continue reading with full attention. This is what we are going to talk about: you will learn how to make decisions and take actions following your own inner compass, and no one else’s.

Here are the five ways to start finding clarity on your next right thing and get into your inner peace.

1. Cultivate sense of inner safety

When you get stuck in the space of confusion and inaction, you are operating from a “freeze” defense mechanism. You feel internally unsafe. Your nervous system thinks that you are in a critical condition that if you’re choosing the “wrong” option, you will forever be doomed. Before trying to find the next step, you first need to bring yourself to the place of safety.

Your mind brings you to the illusion of the future. It tells you how the future is a dangerous place to be. In order for you to enter inner safety and true clarity, you need to enter the present moment.

There are various ways of simple approaches I teach my clients to regulate their nervous system. One of the easiest ways to do this is to observe your breathing. Notice how your breath always lives in the present. A deep belly breathing technique, combining with a long exhale, is also another simple practice to regulate your nervous system and to cultivate inner safety.

Any intentional grounding practice can help bring you back to the present moment and to your body, especially in the moment when you get stuck in the mind. When you move out of your stuckness and feeling safe within, you’re creating space for clarity to appear.

2. Release the “shoulds”, embrace the law of “cause and effect”

Sometimes you feel stuck in an inaction mode not because you don’t have any idea what to do. But in a lot of cases, you actually do have so many options. You’re not lacking choices. You have many choices but you believe there is only ONE right answer out of those many choices. As if there is a consensus somewhere out there, an ultimate rule book of life that you need to follow. 

When you are stuck in the question of what is the “one right answer”, you’re adding pressure to your brain that you most likely would choose the one out of 999 wrong answers. Since the possibility of choosing the ultimate right is so thin, you would feel as if you are in a dangerous situation and this leads to confusion, frustration, anxiety, and inaction.

The truth is almost nothing in our life is clear black or white, good or bad, right or wrong. It all depends. And every action simply has its own consequences. Be courageous to release the idea of “shoulds” and “right vs wrong”. Rest in the understanding that everything in life is simply an infinite flow of cause and effect, with countless uncontrollable factors.

Sometimes what you can do is only to meet yourself exactly where you are in the present moment, and listen deeply to what feels true. Get in touch with your adult wise self and cultivate the sense of self trust that you will be able to respond to any kind consequences in the future.

3. Reconnect to who you truly are

Once you release the notion around “shoulds” and the “one right thing”, now you know this one thing: No one on the outside can show you what to do but yourself. You can only find the true compass within. When you fully embrace the existence of your inner compass, you’ll see how your “right” next step will look different than your neighbor’s “right” next step.

One way to start reconnecting with your inner compass is through understanding who you truly are. Start exploring what authenticity means to you. You can also explore some personality tests that feel aligned with you, e.g. Enneagram, MBTI, the Big 5. 

These tests aren’t there to give you a forecast of your future or to tell you what to do or to not do. The goal isn’t to let these test results dictate who you are. You may not feel fully connected to what’s written. Use this simply as a potential mirror. Read the explanation, and check within. What about it resonates with you? What feels like an invitation for you to further explore? And if anything doesn’t show a resonance, don’t worry about it.

A personal example: through my enneagram type, I found out that creativity and art play a huge role in my connection to my intuition and inner compass. When I read it some time ago, I noticed a loud resonance within. I also had a realization on how much I’ve been putting my thirst for art in the backseat, as I always thought it wasn’t “productive”. The moment I started to embrace art, it opened doors of clarity and possibility for my healing, for my personal growth, for how I run my business in flow, and for my most important relationships. While I can make sense of the world through colors, feelings, and music, some other personality types get better clarity from numbers and data.

In summary: your inner compass knows. Explore it. Listen to it. Trust it.

4. Use your core values as a filtering system

Another way to reconnect with who you are within and to know if you’re making your right decision is through reviewing your core values. Core values and fundamental principles are the representation of what you find to be most important in life. They play a role in how you see the world and in forming your subjective bias around importance and priorities. Notice how I said subjective bias. Again I’m emphasizing on unlearning the illusion of ultimate right vs wrong, and celebrating the uniqueness of each individual’s inner compass.

Using your core values as a filtering system can help you simplify your process in making decisions. Someone who fundamentally values safety would make a different decision than those who highly value exploration and experiences. There are a lot of ways to explore your core values. I personally try to review my core values regularly, and be as specific as only choosing the top two. Not easy, but the more specific you are, the easier it is to get into your clarity.

How do you usually explore your core values? And what are yours? I’d love to know! Write in the comment below.

5. Check with your body

This one is my personal favorite. Only in recent years have I realized how brilliant our bodies are. Our bodies always know.  Our bodies always give us messages all the time. We just need to know how to listen. Once we know how to listen, this can potentially be the easiest and the most fun way to start accessing our inner clarity.

Checking in with your body is one of the critical practices I help my clients to do. There’s an undeniable connection between mind, body, and spirit. Everything is interconnected. It may not be easy to access this at first. Some might experience some traumas in the past that led to a disconnect or feeling unsafe in their own bodies. Others have their conditioned minds get in the way.

We are deeply conditioned by our society to disconnect from our body. Our mind is conditioned to judge and label, in the name of logic and rationalization.  Our mind is powerful, but it can also easily be falsely shaped and formed by culture and through intergenerational woundings. That’s the only way for them to tame our wild inner knowing.

In my sessions, I usually guide my clients to first enter their own safe space, to tame the mind and to be centered and lovingly connect with their bodies. But you can definitely also try it at home by yourself.

When we start exploring our most important inquiries, the body will start giving signals through sensations. When a decision feels true, it feels like either an opening, a spaciousness, or warmth. It feels calming. Like a relieving sigh. When a choice is untrue, it can potentially feel constricting, closed, agitating. It can also mistakenly be perceived as excitement. There’s a sense of either impatience or nervousness, as if you just want to run away right here and now.

So start checking in with your body. Close your eyes, enter a state of stillness. Ask your question. And ask yourself: “How does this choice feel in my body?”

What do you think about these five ways? Give them a try and comment below: which option feels aligned with you?

I hope this can help you start accessing your inner peace and true clarity. And if you feel the need for extra support in accessing your true clarity and courage, it would be my honor to support you in moments of changes and uncertainties. Working with me is a dance and a partnership in such a safe space. Trust is the ultimate factor in the process, and I never take it for granted. Therefore, your first 30-min consultation session is completely free. Use this as a way to simply explore and sense if I’m the right person for you.

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